As CDF I want to know about your family’s needs, the traditions that are important to your family, the parenting schedule you’ve developed so far and how it is working for you, and what your daily schedules are like. I will check in with how your children are doing and provide both support and education on ways to reduce the impact of divorce on your children, including how to tell them of your divorce if that is needed.
As CDF I maintain the emotional equilibrium of all involved. Emotions and overwhelm can show up quickly and we don’t want those to hijack your progress. You and I will design a plan to utilize your strengths and manage your weaknesses through the process. I will support both of you in the areas your marriage has failed you. If your communication is weak, I will be the bridge between you. If trust is gone, I will support your conversations and reframe your words in a positive way to keep triggering down.
There are many ways I support the hurts and holes you arrive with. I am not a therapist and my role is not therapeutic. I am a relationship systems coach working with the dynamics in your relationship so you can stay on track. It is not unusual for old relational patterns to sneak into today’s negotiations. We will work around those.
Sometimes these dynamics are best handled in a simple 3-way meeting with the two of you and me separate from the team. This saves you legal fees.
If Collaborative Divorce is not your interest, I can support you in all these ways outside of the Collaborative Divorce process, too.