Exploratory Coaching is a fun and enlightening experience.

There’s none of this “who did what to whom” stuff. We explore what is wanting to happen. Your relationship has its own dreams, goals, desires. We can tap into those.

When we understand what is wanting to happen, we will know how to proceed from there.

  • You may be clear you want to end.
  • You may get excited at the possibility of healing.
  • You may decide you just want to put things on pause for a while.

Whatever the course happens to be, you have clarity. It’s no one’s agenda but your own.


  • Have you fallen out of love?
  • Do you have the same fights over and over?
  • Are you stressed enough about the marriage to want out, but aren’t really sure if leaving makes sense?
  • How do you decide?
  • What are your options?


When I was trying to decide if I had to leave to save my sanity, or if  could stay for the sake of my family, the therapists we tried didn’t even know where to start unless I could full out say, “Yes, I want this marriage.” I wanted it if it could be different and I really really didn’t want it unless was different.

They had no option for just exploring possibilities. Could things be different enough that my heart could ease back in?

One thing I knew I wanted was to have zero doubt that I’d done everything I could so I could look my kids in the eyes and tell them I did everything I knew to do. Maybe you want that assurance, too.

I wish this type of exploratory coaching that I offer you now was around when I needed it. I understand that you may not know what you want, just like I didn’t. And thanks to this exploratory coaching, you don’t have to know. You can relax as we explore possibilities, get acquainted with your fears, speak honestly, calm your nervous system, put some white space around you, and buy you some time, all without any expected outcome. We will let solutions arise naturally.

Exploratory Coaching Does...

  • Identifies the needs and wants of each of you
  • Points out the damaging behaviors in your relationship and educates you to let them go
  • Discovers your purpose as a couple. What’s your story? Is your current story ending? Is it time to invent a new one?
  • Listens to the voice of your relationship to discover what wants to happen next
  • Focuses on relationship dynamics
  • Solution-oriented, pro-active and forward-moving.
  • Capitalizes on strengths within your power imbalances and personality differences
  • Prompts your self-discovery so you can be your best you whether you stay together or go separate ways.

Exploratory Coaching Does Not...

  • Promise you will get back together
  • Point fingers, focus on blame
  • Is not concerned with who did what to whom
  • Delve into your childhood histories
  • Take a long time.