After my kids left home things started to change for me. I’d been the main caregiver and now I wanted to spread my wings and fly. But the structure of our relationship couldn’t accommodate that. That’s when “my cage started rattling” as I called it. I was coming apart at the seams. My health was waning, my happiness was gone. Holding it together and pretending things were ok was no longer working for me. Something had to change. I had to become the hero in my own life.
It was at that time that I answered the call to train as a life coach, then a relationship coach, on to a Collaborative Divorce coach and mediator. I later trained as a Relationship Systems Coach, which changed my life and the way I work with my clients.
A dozen years as a divorce coach and working with many hundreds of ending relationships has taught me all the many ways a relationship can go sideways. Now I guide couples away from those booby traps and dead ends. I now possess a powerful combination of tools and insights for retrieving even the most damaged relationship from the edge….if they want that.
Today I am grateful for being on the cutting edge of healing our world one relationship at a time.
Relationships are more important than ever in our disconnected society. Let’s talk about yours. How close to the edge are you? What will bring it back? Are you both on board? What if only one of you wants it? All good questions that deserve honest answers. Contact me. I look forward to speaking with you.
This insightful and engaging book takes the reader on an introspective journey of self-discovery, awareness and transformation. Filled with supportive and useful exercises, Beyond Divorce will help ease the pain of the divorce experience by providing opportunities for growth, understanding and transcendence.
– Christine A. Coates , J.D. Mediator and Educator.
Co-author of Learning from Divorce: How to Take Responsibility, Stop the Blame, Move On.
Beyond Divorce provides concrete steps for getting onto a path of healing, understanding, and optimism in the wake of the personal storm that is a divorce. Jeannine Lee writes gently and kindly, encouraging our wounded selves to look inward, and our selves are all we truly have in which to nurture change. She provides guidance with shifts in thinking, writing exercises, and alternate modes of behaving that can create new and more joyful ways of being in the world. This is a great book for all who are ready to embrace the full spectrum of being human.
– Tamara K. Vincelette , Esq. TAMARA K. VINCELETTE, P.C.
Jeannine offer LOTS, and I mean LOTS, of specific, concrete understanding of what makes divorce hurt, and what we need to make things better sooner. Spend time with this book if you are devastated. Even if you aren’t devastated, but something just doesn’t feel right and you haven’t been feeling like yourself, you will find significant value here.
– Michael K Travers Jr MA , JD, Mediator & Counselor at Law
I wanted to thank you both for today. I felt like that was a really powerful session. Jeannine found and went right
to the core issue of respect and I feel better in touch with my respect for [husband] and his respect for me. I’m
feeling like a very lucky person.
Through this coaching we were able to work through the challenges of moving back in together, redesign ou relationships with our kids, clean out old wounds from when we’d significantly hurt each other early in our relationship, and learn how to be for each other. Rebuilding the trust between us has been slow but steady. We’re down to seeing Jeannine just once every couple of months now. We so appreciate those times to check in.
I did not realize how fear was such a factor for both of us. With that in mind we are moving forward and going to try and communicate from a place of love rather than fear. I hope we can translate this into a positive energy for our family and ourselves.
I, John, went through Jeannine’s divorce recovery class when Debbie and I were divorcing for the second time. I was a wreck. I learned so much in that class and in her Discovery class, that I started making big, and overdue, changes in my life. I was proud of myself. I liked who I was becoming.
I, Debbie, wasn’t really happy being divorced but I couldn’t live with John the way things were. We weren’t good together. When I saw John making changes I thought maybe we could try again.
That is when we started working with Jeannine. At first we needed to see her often. There was so much to figure out. So much baggage from our past.
So many hurts to work through, and new things to learn so we didn’t blow things apart again. We didn’t trust each other very much.
Jeannine knows a lot about how relationships work and what goes wrong when they don’t work. She helped us strengthen our weaknesses, avoid some pitfalls, and take charge of our needs in the relationship.
Jeannine started coaching us at a very critical time in our marriage. We had been spiraling down a negative path for a long time and needed someone else to look at what we were doing and give us tools to change.
Jeannine is a real positive coach, having us look at our differences as a good thing, building a whole new marriage on what we have instead of [make believe] dreams, giving us ‘exercises’ to put in practice and experience what we learned.
When we felt a week of back sliding, she would say, ‘but I see your baby steps and see you moving forward.’ We especially appreciate Jeannine’s insight and God given discernment of her coaching. We look forward to our weekly meeting with her.
As usual you worked your magic and helped us to get back on course. You are so wonderful and I/we so appreciate your focus and “presence” when you are working with us. Your insights, observations and thoughts have been invaluable. Thank you. I honestly feel so blessed to have you in my/our life.
I feel like things are moving in the right direction. I do believe if we deal with this properly our relationship will be so much better, stronger and deeper.
I also feel as though our relationship has gone through a sort of rebirth.Or maybe it is me finally getting back in touch with the real me?? Whatever it is, it is a much better place than before and far more honest.
It certainly feels difficult but necessary to go over my feelings and hurt with husband and he is willing to listen to me and I think has begun to understand the depth of the hurt involved.
You are the prime mover in your relationship. You may be surprised to learn that neither marital therapy nor relationship coaching will fix your relationship. Only you can do that. What I do is reflect your relating back to you where you can see it full on, in all its beauty and blemishes, and guide you to expand and balance your relationship to fit who you are today.
We will work together in a conscious way to make effective changes that heal and soothe, and bring contentedness back to your relating.